{"id":3073,"date":"2023-08-05T14:36:05","date_gmt":"2023-08-05T12:36:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/staging.connect2us.eu\/verhalen\/a-whatsapp\/"},"modified":"2024-09-11T13:18:02","modified_gmt":"2024-09-11T11:18:02","slug":"a-whatsapp","status":"publish","type":"portfolio","link":"https:\/\/connect2us.eu\/en\/stories\/a-whatsapp\/","title":{"rendered":"A Whatsapp"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"682\" src=\"https:\/\/connect2us.eu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/illustration_03_def-1024x682.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2374\" srcset=\"https:\/\/connect2us.eu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/illustration_03_def-1024x682.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/connect2us.eu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/illustration_03_def-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/connect2us.eu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/illustration_03_def-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/connect2us.eu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/illustration_03_def-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/connect2us.eu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/illustration_03_def-2048x1365.jpg 2048w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n<p>Manny started his first job in Haarlem full of passion and dedication.\nHe is a salesman at a computer brand and deals with many nice entrepreneurs.\nHe keeps them well informed about the progress of their order or other things he thinks are important to the customer.\nBut now one of his Dutch customers, Frank, has informed him that he finds it annoying to send a Whatsapp on weekends.     <\/p>\n\n<p>Manny is surprised and worried.\n&#8220;Frank and I are in regular contact about how things are going. This weekend I was updating my administration in between, so I thought, &#8216;I&#8217;ll send him an app right away with an update!&#8217; After which he reacted irritated, saying he&#8217;d rather not have me messaging him on weekends.&#8221;\nManny just wanted to do his best.\n&#8220;But okay, he&#8217;s the boss! Still, I don&#8217;t understand how Dutch people get all the work done in those few hours they work. Then you can&#8217;t become successful, can you?&#8221;   <\/p>\n\n<p>Frank is happy to have Manny as a representative. Manny is very helpful and a friendly young man. He takes very good care of him and has helped him out a few times. But he also needs to know when to app and when not to app. &#8220;I felt like I had to set my limit last weekend when he sent me a WhatsApp in my spare time,&#8221; he said.  <\/p>\n\n<p>The connection<\/p>\n\n<p>In the Philippines and many other countries, employees help you even on weekends, even if the business is closed.\nWork and personal life often intertwine.\nThat&#8217;s why Manny thinks it&#8217;s perfectly normal to app his client on weekends.  <\/p>\n\n<p>For the Dutch, evenings and weekends are sacred.\nThat&#8217;s why business apps wait until after the weekend &#8211; so someone doesn&#8217;t feel disturbed in their free time.\nUnless it is very important or unless agreements have been made about this.  <\/p>\n\n<p>Here we are dealing with that achievement orientation, that motivation for success.\nPrivate time is often secondary to work, although of course it shouldn&#8217;t get too crazy. <\/p>\n\n<p>And also the hierarchy.\nManny sees his customer as a kind of boss.\nThe customer is king applies in more ways than one.\nHe wants to be of service to him at all times.\nOn top of that, he comes from a we society.\nThen you are not so concerned with time for yourself and contacts with every conceivable relationship are intermingled.     <\/p>\n\n<p>Frank can set clear boundaries.\nManny finds that quite normal.\nHe will only have trouble understanding why Dutch people so frenetically shield their leisure time, at least in Manny&#8217;s eyes.  <\/p>\n\n<p>He can learn to see the benefits of work-life balance!\nAfter all, this rule applies to everyone, so Manny will find that it can be quite pleasant to avoid thinking about work on the weekend in particular.\nAnd to realize that we can get a lot done during work if we are not distracted by private matters.\nWe work to live, not the other way around.     <\/p>\n\n<p><strong>In short<\/strong><\/p>\n\n<p>For Frank:  <\/p>\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Accept that Manny comes from a society that is performance-oriented and hierarchical.  <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Frank is allowed to clearly state his boundaries.\nThe customer is king.   <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Giving explanations helps.\nThen Manny maintains his confidence and motivation. <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Be extra alert to the other person&#8217;s body language; Manny will not immediately express her surprise.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n<p>For Manny:<\/p>\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Holland keeps private time and work time separate.\nWork to live, not the other way around. <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Ask the customer what they want if there are important messages on the weekend.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>The Dutch are used to being addressed directly.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Don&#8217;t doubt your performance, it&#8217;s about very different things.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/connect2us.eu\/de-sociale-dilemmas-in-onze-samenleving\/\"><\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/connect2us.eu\/de-sociale-dilemmas-in-onze-samenleving\/\">Want to read more about culture dimensions?<\/a><\/p>\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-belangrijk-om-te-weten\"><strong>Important to know<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n<p>This anecdote is based on stories shared with us.\nConnect2Us strives to highlight the dilemma from both sides and not to label people or suggest that one or the other should behave differently.\nAwareness by those involved is enough to move toward each other.\nWithout pretending to be very different.    Connect2Us aims to help readers recognize and avoid prejudice.  <a href=\"https:\/\/www.connect2us.eu\/?page_id=1572&amp;preview=true\"><\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/www.connect2us.eu\/?page_id=1572&amp;preview=true\">Read about prejudice, discrimination and racism here.<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Manny started his first job in Haarlem full of passion and dedication. He is a salesman at a computer brand and deals with many nice entrepreneurs. He keeps them well informed about the progress of their order or other things he thinks are important to the customer. 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