{"id":3136,"date":"2017-06-14T04:58:40","date_gmt":"2017-06-14T02:58:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/staging.connect2us.eu\/verhalen\/good-luck\/"},"modified":"2024-09-11T14:02:19","modified_gmt":"2024-09-11T12:02:19","slug":"good-luck","status":"publish","type":"portfolio","link":"https:\/\/connect2us.eu\/en\/stories\/good-luck\/","title":{"rendered":"Good luck"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
\"\"<\/figure>\n\n

Jo\u00e3o had great success as a youth player in Brazil, where he grew up.\nWhen he came to live in the Netherlands, he also immediately joined a soccer club.\nWhen Jo\u00e3o joined his first team, he was just a basic player.\nHis friends at school liked him and they also enjoyed helping him get started in a new country.\nIt’s all getting used to for Jo\u00e3o and at school it’s not easy.\nBut he can let his feet do the talking and at least he is doing something right! <\/p>\n\n

He is quick with the ball and goal-oriented.\nAfter a year he was scouted by a first division club.\nThey invited him to play there in youth training at JO17.\nHis parents also received some expenses from the club. <\/p>\n\n

Jo\u00e3o is really extremely proud and he can’t wait to tell his friend Casper and others at school.\nHe also got new clothes and was allowed by his parents to buy new sunglasses, so nice!\n“I really look the best out of everyone!” <\/p>\n\n

Casper is a little startled by his friend.\n“How conceited Jo\u00e3o is acting today.\nHe is parading around the schoolyard with his new clothes and sunglasses.\nIt really looks like crap and the other boys are making fun of him.\nHe really shouldn’t think he’s better than us!\nI’m going to tell him to stop that bullshit!” <\/p>\n\n

The connection<\/strong><\/p>\n\n

Jo\u00e3o feels super proud and shows it clearly and then the boys start to get annoyed with him.\nMaybe they are a little jealous.\nBut as you experienced, it is also culture.\nIn the Netherlands there is an expression: ‘Act normal, you’ll be crazy enough’.\nPeople like it when you keep acting “normal,” or modest, even if you are successful.\nIn Brazil, you share your success and people like to put you on a pedestal.\nThey want to belong to you.\nIn India, we know the same thing.\nWe want to be the best, not just do our best.\nAnd also show it when we succeed. <\/p>\n\n

In Scandinavian countries, this is called Jante’s Law (Janteloven), which states that you should not believe that you are better than us.\nThe writer Aksel Sandemose immortalized this mentality by describing a small Danish town he called Jante.\nThat sense of that head above the ground is quite extreme there and with us.\nWe are not primarily motivated by success. <\/p>\n\n

At least this slant has led to a society of solidarity.\nIn general, the underdog is helped rather than the hero.\nIn countries where success comes first, this is much less so.\nThe winner takes everything.\nThe loser gets another chance next time. <\/p>\n\n

Not here.\nThere is a lot of deliberation and searching for consensus so that we divide the pie as well as we can.\nPretty drawn out and tiring sometimes.\nEveryone has to do their peeing.\nBut for someone from a culture where that is not the case, it is often very frustrating.\nMake up your mind! <\/p>\n\n

And now let’s hope Casper can explain to J\u00e3o that he too is very proud, but that in Holland we don’t shout it from the rooftops like that.\nAnother beautiful expression. <\/p>\n\n

In short<\/h3>\n\n

For Casper and friends: <\/p>\n\n